Compassion

Compassion is defined as sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others. I have always considered myself a compassionate person but it wasn't until most recently that I realized I was only truly compassionate when the situation I was being compassionate about was not directly affecting me. So when someone wronged me, I doubtlessly become annoyed and sometimes even angry with that person.

My mother always taught me that everyone is fighting their own fight. Everyone has their own trials and tribulations that are relative to themselves. So just because someone may not be fighting for their lives doesn't mean they aren't going through something really serious and something that may be devastating to them.

Nothing could be more true as I learned a little over seven years ago when I first met my husband (for the second time, more on that at a later date). He was struggling with learning how to have a positive and happy relationship after years in an unhealthy marriage. I had to remember where he was coming from and have compassion for him and his journey. Finding my best friend was well worth it but it was hard at first.

Think of someone that may have recently put you down. Someone who offended you or mistreated you. Perhaps it was a family member, a coworker, an ex, or a complete stranger. The following is easier said than done, I know - just try. Try to understand someone and their negativity and not condemn their behavior.

If others treat you badly, it's not about you, but it's about them and their suffering. Their suffering. 

You may have no clue whatsoever as to what their suffering is and why you are at the receiving end of their blows but know that there is a reason - and it likely isn't you. I am sure you have heard of the term projection - it is so true in far too many cases.

I think I am writing this post tonight as a reminder for myself. A little reminder to myself that sometimes no matter how good of a person you are and no matter how much good you do, it sometimes is bigger than you. So pray (if you pray), meditate, well wish, whatever it is that you do - think of the person who may be causing you strife today or tomorrow. Do something kind for them even if you have to do it anonymously. Truly hope that their suffering ends and they find peace and happiness. Even if it's the checkout person at the super market. There is a reason they are being a giant butthole. It's not your battle, it's theirs.

And remember, it's also OK to say you're sorry when you project your suffering. We are all guilty of this at some point or another. Sometimes saying sorry can be life changing.

Hoping everyone has an amazing and positive week!